I've been thinking a lot about truth and personal assessments lately. It has occurred to me that whenever someone makes an (unflattering)statement of fact about themselves, the people around them are quick to dismiss it as "silly talk". Perhaps when someone says to you "wow, I look fat in those pants" or "dayum, I think I'm old for my skirt to be this short" or "does this fur vest work with the sequin halter"?; it's not a reflection of low self esteem but a moment of personal clarity. We don't need to rush in and save them from themselves; maybe, just maybe they are looking for honesty and trying to critically evaluate the situation. It's possible that maybe they are trying to come up with a corrective course of action. In which case, shouldn't we support them? Why do we assume the person needs to be talked "off the fashion ledge"?
I often take pictures of people when I'm out in public. My twitpics are "infamous" and may likely get me "beat up" one day if I'm not more careful. I'm prompted largely by some of the bizarre things I see, and I ask myself "does she own a mirror"? Or "does he have any friends". It always seems to me that someone in your life would stop you, warn you, counsel you with warmth and support but with truth! For example, "yes, those pants are too tight" or yes, you are too old for that trend"!
I suspect that we know for ourselves and when we try to send up a test balloon many of the "Polly Annas" in our lives want to talk us out of it! Don't be a Polly Anna or a cheerleader....the next time someone says to you "does this look ok" - be honest! Don't be mean or cruel but be honest.
Spandex isn't for everyone. Just because it comes in your size doesn't mean you should own it in 6 colors and finally, red lipstick does NOT look good on everyone! If he/she looks in the mirror and suspects something is wrong - don't you be the one to send them out in to the world with VPL!
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